A friend of mine who is a mom posted an article on being a mom - she said it was funny, so I read it (even though I’m not a mom yet). As I read it, and laughed out loud in several parts, I had this moment of appreciation - for my friends who have gone before me in life’s milestones. Getting married. Buying a home. Having a child. Being a mom. They’ve paved the way. This article was an honest reflection of how hard it is to be a mom - women who regretted giving up their careers and sharing their frustrations that were funny and real (one excerpt being: “I kiss my young teenager good-bye in the morning as she leaves for school, rising above the hormone-fueled snarling and histrionics. Then I close the front door and flip her off, with both hands.” Here’s the full article) and I appreciate that I have honest women in my life who have paved the way with their honesty and hilarity.
Because of that honesty, I walked into marriage knowing it was going to be work. Knowing that I would need to look to Christ for my identity and value and I would need a heck of a lot of help not being selfish and shutting my mouth once in awhile.
Now, several of my friends have children or about to give birth (literally). And I am so thankful for them. In a way, it lets me learn from their mistakes and gives me a healthy dose of reality.